Best Advice For First Time Parents

Sunday, July 29, 2018

Becoming a parent for the very first time can be both extremely exciting and nervewracking at the same time. It's very difficult to know what you're exactly meant to do and who to take advice from. Everyone seems to want to stick their 50pence worth in and then you question whether you should only be listening to medical professionals. We want you to enjoy becoming a first-time parent which is why we compiled this (hopefully) helpful list of advice. Here's a contributed list from some of our lovely UK Parent Bloggers with their best advice for first-time parents. Take a read and judge for yourself what the most common bit of advice seems to be. 

Don't try to plan or regiment things when the baby comes. It's best to just follow the baby and go with the flow as soon as you realise that it becomes a world less stressful! - Sophie

Don’t be afraid to turn down advice! You will get all sorts, some of which will be ridiculous or just something you don’t want to do. Just say, “Thanks for sharing,” and change the subject. 

 Do not compare your baby to anyone else's, every baby is unique and parent your way, don't let anyone try to dictate to you how to bring up your baby, your family, your way.  - Mandi

Trust your gut. It’s the most powerful tool you have. - Clare

Just go with it in the early days and enjoy it! Don't obsess over routine. It's such a lovely time. Stay in your pj's all day if you want to, let people clean if they want to, just enjoy the baby cuddles all you can. And don't sweat the small stuff!
- Gail

Don’t put pressure on yourself. About anything. Being a new parent is hard enough without giving yourself a hard time. You are enough. You are everything your baby needs you to be.
- Rebecca

Don’t worry about those interfering types. Let them have their say because they will do anyway, nod along and say thanks but just brush it off and do everything your way as you want to. You will soon discover there are a lot of advice givers with their ‘back in my day...’ liners.
- Emma

Babies have their own growth schedules, no two babies are the same and just because someone’s baby is doing something before yours doesn’t mean yours is behind in development.
- Sarah

Try not to google everything.
- Nita

Buy lots of muslins, LOTS of muslins!
 - Ben

Don't worry that you're not doing it right. You are! Everyone has their own way of doing things so don't stress about what everyone else is doing, and do what's best for you and baby. And enjoy every moment because even though the days might seem long, the years are very short.
 - Samantha

Listen to your gut, don't expect to be brilliant at everything, accept you'll feel down or lonely sometimes but that it's normal, if you feel very depressed talk to your midwife or doctor, take help when it's offered, ask for it if it's not, leave the cleaning and have a nap 

Learn by your own mistakes not anyone else's and take all helpful advice with a pinch of salt!
  - Catherine

You’ll be judged no matter what you do, so do what’s right for you.
  - Victoria

Don't be afraid to ask for help or take any help that's offered. Whether it's washing up, nipping to the shops for you, watching little one whilst you nap... take it. Your wellbeing matters & newborn days can be hard.
- Kay

Those first weeks of sleepless nights are hard but remember that it will get better, you and your baby will find your groove, and you will sleep again, I promise!
- Kate

Trust your instincts and a midwife once told me there is no such thing as a silly question when it comes to babies! There is no rule book when it comes to babies and every baby is different don't be swept away by what other people are doing and all the advice you are bombarded with just parent the way that works for you and your baby and everything else will fall into place! 
- Jess

We wrote a pretty large guide for first time dads here that should help. My personal favourite from it was that baby bonding may not be instant, and that’s perfect. 
- Han-Son

Do exactly what you want not what anyone else tells you to.
- Lianne

If you wear glasses, go and buy a cheap pair. Baby will constantly pull them off your face and will probably break them!
- Samantha

Sleep when the baby sleeps. Forget the house work and making tea, rest is a must for your body and mental health. 
- Carla-Marie

There are no rules. Every child is different.
- Su

Don't be afraid to admit how hard it is and to ask for help. Emotionally, not just with laundry. It's easy to feel like the biggest failure in the world when you don't feel like you know what you're doing. But the greatest pressure is that which we place on ourselves. It's ok to admit you're struggling. Look after your mental health and speak up.
- Nicola

Sleep when the baby sleeps, once/if you have a second you won’t ever get that luxury! 
- Vicki

Go with your gut instinct, they call it mothers instinct for a reason.
- Hayley

Be prepared to have lesser sleeping hours. Having a newborn is not an easy task. Be prepared, be healthy, sleep when you can and be patient with your little one. 
- Veronica

Spend as much time on your own with your baby as you can. If you don’t want someone to come say no don’t let anyone force themselves on to you. I told everyone from the off I didn’t want anyone but hubby and kids come to visit me at the hospital. I just wanted to enjoy my little family before we went back to ‘real life’. 
- Kirsty

Don’t be afraid to accept help when it’s offered. I remember when I had my little lady I wanted to prove to everyone that I could do it without any help. And then my mum made me realise that it’s ok to take the help that’s offered because we all need a helping hand at first. To help us find our feet. And always remember that nobody knows your baby better than you so trust your instincts.
- Kelly-Anne

Do what feels right for you. You'll get loads of unsolicited advice once your little one arrives, but do what you need to do. If bedsharing is what you need then do it (safely). I started babywearing when my little one was a couple of months old and it changed my parenting journey for the better, despite all the people who knew nothing about it telling me that I was going to end up with a clingy child. I now have a really confident and outgoing 3-year old who is anything but clingy. I stuck to my guns and did it my way, and I'm now reaping the rewards.
- Kim


We hope you found this blog post useful, if you did give it a share with your friends on social media. Thank you to each and every one of the UK Parent Bloggers which helped contribute towards this helpful post. You rock! 

1 comment

  1. I'm not a mum (yet!) but it's always struck me how people get so involved in other people's parenting. I loved reading this, seeing all these people say it's okay to do it your own way and you don't have to listen to busybodies! Very inspiring post :)
    Beth x Adventure & Anxiety


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